Monday, August 7, 2017

e Tip# 658 How to Win the Battle without Starting a War

How to Win the Battle without Starting a War


August 7, 2017
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battleThe Chinese philosopher Sun Tzu once said, “The supreme art of war is to subdue the enemy without fighting.” Can you feel the power in that statement?
Imagine being able to subdue your enemy without ever having to fight. If you’re having trouble painting that picture, you’re not alone. Most people don’t have the ability to argue skillfully. If they’re not screaming or being combative, they become just the opposite. They may feel insignificant during disagreements. They may even be unable to find the words to express themselves despite having a strong argument.
Author of How to Win Friends and Influence People, Dale Carnegie shares his Golden Rules on how to be effective at communication, and arguments were part of that lesson. Through his methods, you can learn how to state your views, thoughts, and ideas in a way that can easily be understood by anyone, even amidst disagreements and debates. With these tricks, you can begin to win battles without ever starting a war.
The best way to became an effective communicator is developing the ability to listen. When everyone decides to talk over one another, nothing really gets accomplished. Does this sound familiar? This is the very nature of the pointless shouting matches so many of us have had.
In The Dale Carnegie Course, you’ll learn how to effectively win people over. The program explains why it is important to listen to people and show respect for their opinions even when you disagree. This relaxes your opponent rather than pushing them into defense mode. Instead of arguing solely to win, try to make the person feel understood and calm rather than under attack. This way they move to a place of compromise instead of rage.
If you’re someone who tends to avoid confrontation, stepping up to the challenge fearlessly is the hardest part. When you feel overwhelmed and stuck, it may seem easy to throw in the towel. However, this isn’t always the answer. Push past these fears and work toward coming to a commonplace rather than taking the high road. This approach may seem like you are being argumentative at first. However, you’ll find that when you lead your argument with listening to understand rather than being heard, this method almost never turns into a combative screaming match.
Learning how to win the battle without starting a war is so vital in the workplace because how you engage with others sets a tone for your personal brand. If someone is temperamental at work, most assume that outside of work they are probably hostile too. So, what do others think about you?
If you want to be the person who is seen as friendly and not known for feuding, this course is for you.

www.westernct.dalecarnegie.com

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